A friend of mine said some things and acted a certain way to make another friend of mine feel really bad. I mean, really bad to the point of tears. And it's not the fact that he said too much. No. It's the fact that he doesn't know how to say what he has to say in order to get his point across. Instead, he'll act a certain way to demonstrate his frustrations at not being able to express verbally his thought process.
Why is communication so hard for some?
I've always believed that the primary things needed in order to establish a well balanced relationship (and this applies to relations within bf/gf, friends, or family) are three things... Honesty, Communication, and Mutual Respect. Simple enough. It's not like I had to take a class on social conduct or on "Human Interactions 101". It's your average, simple common sense. Just like common sense tells you that when your mother gets a new haircut and she asks you how it looks, you're not going to say, "What the heck happened to your head?!?!?!?" Right? No, you need to be sensitive to your mother. Or else, you can expect a nice, swift backhand. At least, in some families, that's the way it works. It upsets me that in this case last night, one guy couldn't give the other guy the benefit of the doubt and trust his persona enough to sit down and explain certain things.
I guess it's something that is not easy for everyone.
Until recently, the honesty thing is something I like. It's great to be honest with another person... even though honesty can bring things you don't want to hear. But I know that in the end, the truth is what brings forth many more things. And if the truth must hurt, then it'll bring a learning lesson for that situation. I just wish I knew what to say about my two friends. I don't want to be a mediator. In fact, there are a lot of things I don't want to and be like. But recently, I'm finding out that I'm being placed in positions that I've sometimes not wanted to be in.
