THE “LOVE/HATE” THEORY -- NO OFFENSE GIRLS!

So, here's the deal:

The other night, I saw this this old Budweiser commercial. It was very funny, as they usually are, but this one had a LOT more truth to it than I've ever seen in a commercial.

Here's what happens in the commercial: There is a guy sitting in a bar/night club type of place. He is sitting with about 4 women, his friends. They are all sitting there telling their sob stories about guys and how much they suck, and the guy is being your "sensitive and caring" guy. Well, after a while, one of the girls says, "Why can't guys be like you?", and other women chime in with "Yeah!" and "I wish I had a man like you!" and etc. So, the guy replies with a chuckle, "Well, I am up for grabs!", and all the women pause for a second.... then they laugh and say, "Aww, cute" and "Heh-heh.. up for grabs!", and they totally brush his comment off. Well, a second later, one of the guy's male friend comes by where the main guy is sitting. The main guy says, "Hey Mike, what’s up? These ladies here are my friends.", and the new guy's reply is, "Yeah. Whatever. I'll be at the bar", and he walks away. The main guy is like... um.. ok. The women are also stunned by the way this guy was just rude. They pause for a second and then they're like, "Phew! Who's your friend?? Is he single???"

TRUE

If anyone has seen this commercial, ya'll probably know how true to life this really is. Here is my quarrel with it: I’ve known one too many women in this lifetime who fill that role. So, what is the deal?? Well, here's my analyzation: girls come in all degrees. You have your clingy ones, your stalkerish ones, the ones who are very sweet, the ones who are a little ridiculously TOO sweet, the ones who don’t give a damn (usually the butch feminist type), the ones who like the abusive guys, etc etc… the list just goes on. But the bottom line is: they all tend to share a common ground, that being the "I don’t need a guy, but it would be nice to have one" theory. *cough cough*

Now, seriously. C’mon. The way I look at it, everyone would always like to have someone there. But we're just so complicated about it, we brush off our wants and sugarcoat it with that "I don’t really need someone" attitude. This brings forth the courage to take on the jerk boyfriends. Why? Well, they like the excitement of being able to tame a stallion into a house-pony, and at the same time, he is still a stallion. Basically, women like to be challenged. Why? God knows why. He created women, so He knows better than I do. Anyways, my point is, it's not enough for you to be "there" nowadays. No siree. You have to be... a jerk as well.

How silly does it get sometimes?!?

Well, to the point that I’ve dated girls who purposely try to start arguments because things are going... too well. Hilarious, isn’t it? Yeah. The challenge itself now comes in the form of testing one's patience and the durability of the relationship in order to evaluate how much it means to one. Why? Well, all of a sudden, we've embraced the whole, "You have to fight strong and hard for what you believe in and to achieve your dreams"... only now we're embracing that train of thought to EVERY single thing in our life. Example? The "best" biographies of some rock stars tell stories of how they struggled to get to where they are at now, and those with natural talent who have ALWAYS been applauded, well, they now are shun down on because they have "everything handed to them on a silver platter". So then, I ask you all this one question and think about it: If you have to fight for everything in this lifetime so that you feel like you deserve what you have or so you feel adequate about WHO you are, then what REALLY does love mean to you? If you have to fight long and hard for someone, think about this, you’re chasing after someone who doesn’t want you, and if they ever give in, you'll wonder if they really want you and why didn’t they hook up with you in the first place if they really wanted to be with you AND you'll wonder if you really want to be with someone you’ve pretty much had to beg to be with you. Or if you’re in a relationship where all you do is break up to make up... ask yourself this, how healthy is it that now the only drug you need is the emotional roller coaster that you go on when you break up and get back together….

So, if you get something handed to you on a "silver platter," can’t it be maybe just because you actually deserve something that great and maybe you don’t have to suffer anymore just to reach a vague accomplishment you’ve set out for yourself? Can’t it be because in your tears and times of suffering, you’ve called out to God to help you and how much you hate going through certain things?? Can’t it be because maybe He heard you and decided to give you a blessing? See. This applies to every point of our lives, not just the relationship aspect.

Nevertheless, women will want that challenge so that in the end, they can tell themselves and CONVINCE themselves, as well as everyone else, that the relationship they are in is so valuable to them because they've been through the THICK and the THIN and they're still together... therefore it has to be love, right?

Hmm.. wrong!

Certain things in our lives are only hard and suffering because we allow them to be, because we prolong them, etc.

But don’t mistake what I am saying. Everything I’ve just said should also be easily applied to the vice versa, the male to female point of view. There are guys who are worse than women. The only reason I brought it up from the point of view of women to men is because of the commercial and because I wanted to throw in my opinion.

Now, I want yours. What do you think?